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When Love isn't enough

What do you do when you realize that love isn't enough? After all has been said and done, and change still isn't forthcoming? When you drum in some things into the partners head, but the lessons are really hard to stick to? Or the partner just refuses to "learn"?

Do you close your eyes to it all and pretend that they are not there? Or do you voice out your opinion and be regarded as a "nag"? You already know the answer, but ask for people's opinion, and take it when it "favour's" you? 

"Love is patient and kind...it is not self-seeking...keeps no record of wrongs...it always hopes, always perseveres" (1 Cor. 13:4:7- NIV)", you might say. "But I am also human and imperfect" is my own defence.

Love for me is a beautiful thing, but it shouldn't cover up for the basics when they are not in place...love languages shouldn't be ignored, and individual feelings should be considered and respected.

I strongly believe that every one is significant and should be celebrated in a way that makes them feel appreciated and loved in return.

I 'm sorry if this comes out as jumbled, but I truly can't say more than this now.

They say "a word is enough for the wise", I hope the "wise" are reading this and have gotten "the word".


Comments

  1. OddNaijaChicApril 4, 2012 at 5:37 PM

    Yes, really true. I learned that not so long ago. Even when we got back together after the initial break-up and I found out that he hadn't changed, we had to split once more. It's no use lying to yourself that eventually, he'll change.

    Love can't always change a man or woman completely so why stay and remain hurt?

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  2. HoneyDameApril 4, 2012 at 10:21 PM

    Uhm, it is well....

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  3. A-9ja-GreatApril 5, 2012 at 8:10 AM

    In a relationship,'love' in itself isn't enough.'Relationship' is a 'whole' that is made up of 'parts' and love is just a part of that whole.So love is never enough and this is where 'weighing' always comes in.

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  4. MyneApril 5, 2012 at 1:28 PM

    I hope everything works out, SOmetimes, life and love can only be complicated cos we allow it.

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  5. UnknownApril 5, 2012 at 4:20 PM

    I side with A9jaGReat on this one... Love is not enough if every other need is not met.
    but Love is "simply" a complicated thing

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  6. !.!.!April 6, 2012 at 2:09 PM

    Hmmmmmn. Love, essential - but sometimes insufficient. Takes a lot of work - hard work. Dialogue, Compromise and Tolerance all require huge doses of effort.

    Interestingly, only love can provide enough willingness to put in all that work.

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  7. RitaApril 10, 2012 at 6:52 PM

    Love in the true sense of the word is enough because love covers a multitude of sins...

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    1. EmaleeciousApril 17, 2012 at 4:01 AM

      That's true, but should it be to one's detriment?

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  8. GbemisokeApril 11, 2012 at 2:37 PM

    Hmm... Matters of love and life aren't always straight foward.
    Complex? Yes. Impossible to resolve? No.
    (Hugs)

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    1. EmaleeciousApril 17, 2012 at 4:02 AM

      Thanks sweetz. Just like Imisi said, only love can provide enough willingness to put in all that work.

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  9. Humberto DibApril 13, 2012 at 10:11 AM

    Great blog, cheers from Argentina!
    HD

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  10. Coy~IntrovertMay 14, 2012 at 12:17 PM

    *Reading comments and learning*

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