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Saturday, January 7, 2017


I'm a strong woman

Yet sometimes I need someone to be stronger than me. Someone I can run to for help.

I am independent

But sometimes I desperately need a shoulder to lean on.

I make my own decisions

I'm strong willed no doubt, but often I find myself wishing I could run my decisions through someone who will just listen and point out the flaws before the decisions become my achilles heel.

I'm focused

This has always been a given, thank God. Yet at times I find little thoughts fluttering around my mind like beautiful butterflies, each one beautiful in its own right, seeking attention.

I need no one

I am a self sufficient being. Indisputable. But my very genetics makes me need a man. Someone who I call partner. To walk through life with me.

In spite of my obvious weaknesses, I am strong. I am a complete being because I know I am strong and possess weak points.
My weaknesses make me human. Keeps me grounded. Makes me remember that I am a mere mortal.
I laugh. I love. I live.

I am in every sense contrary, yet proud of it!

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Breast cancer awareness

October is Breast cancer awareness month!!!
 According to The World Health Organization, breast cancer is the most common cancer found in women worldwide and claims the lives of hundreds of thousands of women each year. Breast Cancer is caused by the formation of malignant cells in the breast tissue. It is more common in women than in men. In men, it is usually detected as a hard lump under the nipple and areola. While one in eight women are diagnosed with breast cancer the ratio for men is one in a thousand.
This is an effort to raise awareness and also reduce the stigma associated with breast cancer by educating people on the symptoms and possible treatment.

Signs & symptoms

It is important to self-examine yourself monthly. This way, any changes will be immediately discovered. Whenever an abnormality is discovered, it should be investigated immediately.  The following are symptoms or signs to watch out for:
1.       A change in how the breast or nipple feels- lumps, thickening within the region or underarm area, change in skin texture, enlargement of skin pores of the breast.
2.       A change in the breast or nipple appearance – unexplained changes (swelling or shrinkage) in size or shape of the breast, dimples on the breast, slightly turned or inverted nipple, skin of the breast looks red, scaly or pitts (stays depressed when you press it)
3.       Nipple discharge- clear, milky or bloody must be checked out by the doctor.

Causes of breast cancer
Breast cancer is caused by damage to the cell’s DNA, so it is very difficult to pinpoint one exact cause for breast cancer.
There are however certain risk factors which make it more likely for one to develop cancer. Risk factors refer to anything that increases a person’s chance of getting a disease such as – family history and genetics, habits (drinking alcohol), age and lifestyle risk, hormonal factors.
Breast Cancer Myths
1.       Lump = cancer
  • This Is not true. Only a small percentage of lumps are actually breast cancer. Never ignore any lump found and ensure you get ti checked by the doctor. 
Only women have breast cancer
  • Men actually have breast cancer too. It is detected by a hard lump and unfortunately men have a higher mortality rate than women because they are less likely to assume that a lump is breast cancer and delay seeking treatment.
3.       If you have a family history of breast cancer, you are likely to develop it too. 
  • This is untrue. Some women who have breast cancer have no family history of it. In fact only about 10% of individuals diagnosed with breast cancer have family history of it.

4.       Breast cancer is contagious. 
  • Breast cancer is not contagious but occurs as a result of damaged cells which begin to spread into other tissues within the breast. It is necessary to practise a healthy lifestyle and be aware of the risk factors.

5.       Antiperspirants and deodorants cause breast cancer. 
  • There is no conclusive evidence linking deodorants or antiperspirants to the development of breast cancer.

How to examine yourself (WOMEN)

  1. Stand straight in front of the mirror, place your hands on your hips

a.       Look through the mirror and identify the shape, size and colour of your breast. They should be evenly shaped without any visible swelling or distortion.
b.      If there is any dimpling, scaling, bulging or puckering, you need to get the attention of your doctor immediately
2         2. Raise your arms and observe the shape and size.
           3. Look out for any fluids coming out of the nipples.
4         4.  Lie down and place your left arm behind your head like a pillow. Using our right hand, feel the left breast with a firm smooth touch. Use your fingers and feel your way round the breast in a slow circular motion. Go over the whole breast from top to bottom, side to side.
          5. Repeat this process with the other breast.
6        6. Stand up and feel the breasts. Go over the entire area carefully in the same process described above. 

How to examine yourself (MEN)
1.       Create a slippery soapy layer over your breast area. This makes it easier for the fingers to glide over the skin without rubbing it.
2.       Place your left arm behind your head and use the first three fingers of your right hand to go over the breast area slowly in a circular motion.
3.       Check your nipple by gently squeezing it between your index and ring finger. Look out for any discharge, puckering or retraction.
4.       Check the second breast by repeating the steps above.
5.       In front of a mirror, examine both breasts and look out for any skin changes – rash, dimples or puckers.

Remember early detection (monthly breast self exams, regular clinical checks, mammograms) of breast cancer increases treatment options and greatly reduces the risk of people dying from Breast cancer.
Encourage everyone you know to get tested today!

For free Cancer Screening in Lagos, please go to Optimal cancer Care Foundation – 118 Bode Thomas Surulere.

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

My thank you's

Hello world,

Its been almost 2 years now since i have been here. Wow!
 I have missed blogsville (I hope it is still called that?)

So much has happened. so many memories have been made. In my head, i was here everyday, but in reality, i juggled a zillion things. The days I had the time to sneak in here I was afraid.

What do I write about? Who will read? But I was encouraged by my cousin Ema and my friend Folake (Adeline Signature Home) They urged. encouraged. cajoled....And I'm here.

Thank you. To these 2 beautiful ladies who made me think I had something to write. Thank you for believing in this blog, in me.

Thank you to all my readers who stopped by regularly before now to read, comment and even share.

Here's to greater years ahead!

Monday, October 5, 2015

Live a life you will remember.


I have become as irregular as a leap year...but my thoughts are still here sometimes.

How have you been?What new thing have you been up to recently?

I saw a beat up power bike today and it made me pause. The rider was perched on it like it was going to fly. Alas, the bike was so beat up it couldn't even run. The roaring sound that is synonymous with power bikes was absent, in its place was a broken growl. I felt bad for the bike...but on a second thought, I figured the bike "lived its life" to the fullest. It probably thundered as it flew past in its prime, roared for people to pave a path hurriedly for it. I imagine it was also very resplendent to see. A beast indeed. It lived a life worthy of its name. I am sure (don't ask me how) it made its manufacturer proud.

Of course, you know I will ask...what are you doing with your life? Are you living it to please your maker? Will you look back when you are old and grey and say "Yes, I lived my life"! or "I wish I lived a little"? Don't let life slip away to the point where your heart will yearn for younger days.  Be remembered for the life you lived... make memories you know will never fade. 

Here's a song for you by Avicii "The Nights"
I totally enjoyed this song. It just charges me up real good. Alas, I cant even dream of doing half the stunts in the video, but the words just made me feel so alive!!! I sincerely pray that my heart will never yearn for younger days because I plan to send my days very well. I pray my nights never die!!

On the #DezianiGate/ #SarakiGate matter... We are just watching. May Nigeria truly become clean in all ramifications. Nothing is impossible.

Song of the day - Avicii "The Nights"

Thursday, August 20, 2015

A New Year: Happy birthday to my daughter and I

As I type this,  today makes it a year of God's faithfulness. It's not just my birthday,  it's the anniversary of the birth of my first child Tehila.  Yep, she was born on my birthday. No, it wasn't planned,  it just happened as God wanted.

One whole year of God's faithfulness.

How do I begin to express my gratitude to God for this beautiful gift. This bundle of inexhaustible energetic adorable cute angel God gave me to watch over for him?
How do I summarise one fantastic super duper year in one blog post? 
How do I begin to describe the beauty of this past year?
How do I begin to thank you for your;
Daily protection
Daily provision
Daily guidance
Daily strength
Daily healing
Daily love
Daily companionship?

When you first gave me this gift, I was afraid.  I didn't know how I would fare as a mom. Would I know what to do? How do I take care of her? My heart was fraught with worry. But you whispered and told me to be still and look on to you. You didn't take away your face from me. I wasn't ashamed because I looked up to you and indeed my help came from you.
Thank you for my family.  For loved ones who helped out. Who still help out. Bless them and please always send helpers their way too.

How do I say thank you?  Not just for my baby, but for me too? How can I even fathom the words? Will the heavens be large enough to sing your praises?

Who is like you Jehovah?  Who compares with you?  With whom can we express ourselves so freely? Indeed only a fool will say there is no God. I acknowledge you as God.  In heaven. On earth.  Beneath the earth. You reign supreme always.

My Father,  my God,  my King. I have come today to say thank you for my daughter and I. For all you did this past year. For all you are doing. For all you will do this coming year.

I ask for grace for one more year. Grace to watch over your child you placed in my care. Grace to be a good mum. Grace to lead her in the path chosen for her. Grace to teach her all she should learn within this one year. Grace to come back rejoicing with her (and hubby too) at the end of this year

I pray for wisdom to listen to you always.  I pray for wisdom to walk in the path you have set for me this new year.
I pray for a heart to serve you.
I pray for sound mind, good health, richer pockets and a better heart.
I pray that death will not be a part of us in anyway this new year.

Thank you my Redeemer
Thank you my Master
Thank you Everlasting Father
Thank you.

Friday, July 24, 2015

Married Dating: The Ashley Madison Hack Saga

Nothing is private. Not when you have to put it online anyway. I bet the account owners of Ashley Madison have realized this a little too late. Funny, this isn't even the first time a dating website as been hacked into. Yet we find people flocking to these websites every time.

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 I don't even want to imagine how those who have accounts on Ashely Madison (Read all about it here source 1 and here source 2) must be feeling right now. Its like all their secrets have been exposed.
How do you face your spouse? How do you explain to your family? Your friends? How do you raise your head up when you have been caught pants down with your hands in the proverbial cookie jar? How does your partner (who probably has been faithful to you) trust you again?


Is there really a thing called Married dating?Like how can you be married and still be dating at the same time?

I ain't no judge, but it just sounds so wrong!!! Wrong on all counts.If you are married please, stay married and leave dating for the single men and women. You CAN'T date someone other than your spouse. If you are divorced or widowed, then you can date, but married dating, please count me out. I don't even want to go to the spiritual aspect of it.

Indeed I know "stolen waters are sweet" but be rest assured that it always give a bad tummy ache. It leaves a bitter taste of bile after. The end result is totally not worth all the effort in the long run.

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If you start thinking of cheating on your spouse, please, add spice and zest to your marriage. Talk to your spouse about it, let him or her know what it is you find lacking and both of you can reach an agreement on how to jazz up things together. It isn't as easy as it sounds, but its a lot better than the guilt you feel when you cheat and the feeling of shame you feel when you "get caught". 

There isn't such a thing as married dating. Its either you are dating or you are married. But you can't have both worlds at the same time.

What's your view of this whole married dating thing? Please share your views with me in the comment section. I'd really really love to hear from you.

Thank God Its Friday!!!

Have an awesome weekend


Monday, July 13, 2015

Advice needed please


Hope you had a smashing weekend?  Mine was a blur of activities.  I don't even know how we reached Monday.  I'm still booting. 😑

Please I urgently and desperately need your advice. How do you tolerate people you can't get rid of? Like they are around you no matter what, so you have to deal with them. I need advice and help because my patience is running out real fast.

I look forward to your responses in the comment section. Thank you in anticipation.

Have a favor -full week.


Thursday, July 9, 2015

Ready or not?

Hello world!

Its been waaaaayyyyy tooooooo long.

I don't know how its possible for someone who desires solitude to avoid quiet places. I love reading blogs and reading things generally, but somehow, that hasn't been possible for me in such a long time. For the past 1 week however, my mind has been coming back here. I owe you my follower a profound apology for "letting life happen". I will not promise to blog everyday, but I will try my best (God aiding me) to be more regular.

I'm sure you are wondering what finally made me come back? Well today while we were all busy at work, someones phone started ringing and this made everyone in the office stop, look up with fear and mentally count everyone to be sure we were not "suddenly" missing anyone. Now I'm sure this has you interested. Yes? 
Guess what the ring tone was? It was the sound of "the Trumpet"!!!
SO we all stopped and looked up. All of us- Muslims and Christians alike. Mehn, it was a quick but silent count to be sure that all of us were still there. As soon as my own (I can only speak for myself) headcount was over, I whispered a prayer. I asked God not to let the trumpet sound and leave me on this side of the "Great Divide". Little did I know that it wasn't only me who uttered a prayer.

A full 2 minutes later, we all (in unison) breathe a huge sigh of relief and started to laugh about it chastising the owner of the ring tone.

After laughing, I decided to dust the cobwebs here. We really are in the end times with chaos, wars, and all sorts of vices- Are you ready? The 2nd coming of Jesus Christ (Aka "Rapture") will happen in the twinkle of an eye. There really wont be time to pray for a "change"

Here's an excerpt on TD Jakes Comment on the legalized Gay marriage in America- 
"There's nothing to say that Christianity will be the dominant religion in this country. I hope it will. It's up to us," he added, going on to say that Christians have "stopped witnessing" and "stopped winning souls" and continue to isolate themselves from people who do not "believe like we believe."
That runs against what Jesus commanded His followers to do, he insisted, adding, "Jesus said go into all the world and preach the Gospel to every living creature."
"So we need to change as a Church too. We need to start reaching out to all types of people and preaching to them and ministering to them and sharing our faith with them. I don't mean on Sunday morning. I mean in the mall, I mean in the grocery store, I mean while you're getting your hair done. It's time for you to be a real Christian. I mean a real Christian, and win people to Jesus Christ. And you can start in your own house," Jakes admonished his flock and the countless others watching the service via livestream. Source

As Christians, let the world see Jesus in you. Don't let your light go down.
I want us to dance with the angels and Worship God together forever.

Live ready!!!

Monday, March 9, 2015


I am still here....

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yay! the mic is working! lol

Monday, January 12, 2015

Purples Vs. Greys

I asked God for a purple life. Purple is the colour of royalty, right?  I wanted a life that was rich. Not in the material sense of the word, just a life that had it all- An amazing career, a fabulous job, an opulent lifestyle,  a rich hawt hunk of a husband, the cutest kids get the drill!

I wanted a purple background, filled with bouquets of all sorts- roses🌹 daffodils, tulips🌷, carnations, bluebells, buttercups, cherryblossoms, daisies, forget me nots...etc. I wanted them not to appreciate them really, but for the aesthetic beauty they could provide.

Guess what God gave me?- A grey life!
How disappointing, right? I know!!!

I reminded Him, about my request. But God,  I knew what I wanted as far back as high school.  I prayed about it for ages. Did you mix up my request with someone else's?  I asked
God said "no, babe. I didn't mix up the requests, I gave you just what you need"
What I need? But I know what I need. I want what I want. This is what I want. Didn't you say I should ask for anything in your name? I asked. Why is the answer different ?
He replied- I gave you a grey and sparse background so you could better appreciate the little springs when they flow; value the single flowers that popped up from time to time and appreciate each one for its beauty and for adding colour to your drab grey; understand that each time you get an entire bouquet, it's not because you are beautiful or so hardworking and intelligent , but because, at that point, it is what you need. Sometimes, I give a single flower, sometimes, it's a whole bouquet, other times, it's an entire garden. I give it based on what you need per time and where you are per time.

I need you to understand that the thorns that accompany each rose is there for a reason- there is no beauty without ugliness and no ugly thing without an accompanying beautiful spot.
I need you to see that life has 2 sides. Naturally, you learn to appreciate things better if you didn't get it on a crystal platter. 
You need to know that there is beauty in labour.  Sweat is for a purpose- after the outcome has been accomplished,  your body automatically cools down...(that's why pounded yam still remains sweater than poundo... Na the sweat dey cause the sweetness. Lol)

I didn't get everything I wanted...oh, I got an eye candy for a husband and a super-duper cute and adorable baby) but I'm more than grateful that I can appreciate little things when I see or get them.

My life isn't perfect, but I love it perfectly.

I may not be where I envisioned for myself at this time, but I am way better today than I was yesterday.
That in itself is something to be super grateful for.