Do you sometimes catch yourself telling a lie? Like you just blurt it and wish you had just zipped your mouth instead? What do you do then, when the lie is out? Pop it back into your mouth? Bite yourself? Tell the truth? Or tell another lie to cover that one?
To lie is to hold something which one knows is not the whole truth to be the whole truth, intentionally (Wikipedia). So, a lie (white, red, purple, green-whatever colour you chose to use to coat it-) is still a lie.
I went visiting with a friend. The house we went to was untidy and very dusty, and I remember saying "your house is lovely", when my head was screaming, clean up already. WHY did I lie? I could have just shut my mouth, but I "had" to comment as it was my first time there. I probably felt it the "right" thing to do.
You do it sometimes too, when you tell someone you like her hair, when you really don't. Or when you tell that hot chic "I love your dress", when you don't but know its a new one, and feel obligated to compliment. Sometimes, I think its just natural to compliment new things not because we like them, but because they are new. Or is it because we also like to be complimented when we try something new fashion wise? I wonder...
Now-a-days, its the GSM lie..."there's so much traffic", "I'm almost there", "I am in Lagos" when actually you are in Abuja, "I'm at a meeting" when you are hanging out with your friends.
I Saw someone's DP the other day and was like thank God for modern days. I thought the picture was an old one probably taken when she was still in school. Then I saw her 2 days later and she had that hairstyle on her head. It was so "in your face" (to me anyway) but I saw that she really liked it and kept patting her hair. Almost commanding me to comment. I honestly didn't want to lie, so I said something like, "hmn, chic, this your hair na die" and she started preening. I was so glad I didn't actually lie.
I am not saying I don't "lie" because I know it would hurt me real bad if I put on something and feel really fly someone tells me I look horrible. But I guess at that point, you really don't need to make me feel bad. If you must say something, just say something to indicate that you have "noticed" it. ("Hmn, new dress"; "ah, you went shopping" ; "had time to go to the salon, what's this style called?", "you look different"- Whatever works for you, but don't be cruel.
As for me, I feel you dont always have to compliment. If one doesn't find the hair/dress/whatever nice, just don't say anything. Its not a do or die thing.
ReplyDeleteI tell you!!! But I think we sometimes think we "have to", and that's so wrong.
DeleteIlola is right. Better to be mute than blurt something out that would hurt another unless it has to do with a character flaw in which case we need a lot of wisdom to deliver the message. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome dear, thanks for reading!
DeleteSometimes the lies Just come out,yes it does coz you just trying to be nice...not saying its cool to lie though.
ReplyDeletelol! I feel you, but I doubt if the person will understand that when he or she realizes your reason.
DeleteMy friend did it to me today, and when I looked in the mirror, I saw the truth...I went back and referred her here.
In this world who is by the way swarmed by pretenders, it is obvious that lying is next thing to do.
ReplyDeleteNo, I beg to differ. No one is forced to do or say anything if they don't want to, that's why we have choices.
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