Sometimes life comes at you so hard, it leaves you reeling and wondering what hit you.
Somedays are better than others, you get up, dust yourself and move on. Other days? Not so much. You can't even lift a limb to save your life. You just sit there wallowing in misery, wondering who scammed you into growing up.
"They" made us believe that growing up was that perfect life- no one to tell you what to do, you decide what is important, you just chill and flex, you want to bamba, chill with the big boys, right? Scam!!! The responsibilities are endless. It's like a game where you have to keep alert, or something comes from your blindside, knocks the wind right out of you if you are not watchful. The bills, the job, the career ladder, the relationships, self-development, healthcare, if you are a Nigerian- that one sef dey! ..the list is endless.
One swing, then another, then another, all in quick succession. No one teaches you the art of ducking the blows, you just wing it, hoping on God that you pass that phase. Does it ever stop? Not while you're alive I think. The pattern may change, but the life cycle still remains regardless of your achievement and status. It just never stops!
I was talking about the good days before I got distracted. After having the bad days that humbles you to the ground, you become grateful for days that just "shift" you a little and leave you standing. It's for such times that we count our blessings and know that "everything good will come!" It may be hard, but just remember that it will get better. One day you will look back and smile and be thankful that it is better! I was giving Ryan a bath the other day and he just said from the blues, "You're a good mummy". I almost cried and gave him a tight hug, soap suds and all. That made my day. To think the day before I was feeling very sorry for myself. That moment, I realized that everything will be alright in the end, so if it's not alright, then it's not the end.
Remember to smile often. You'd never know who needs that glorious lift.
Laugh when you can, I promise you look a lot nicer when you do.
Dance more often. No one really sees the missed steps, they remember how you warmed their hearts and join in the dance. Always dance like you're the only one there.
Live one day at a time. The trouble tomorrow brings will be handled by tomorrow. Focus on the now that you have. We are not promised tomorrow, but today is what we have.
I saw a post by The Skilled Muslimah and it sums how I feel very nicely- "Eat your breakfast and don't choke on it".
"...gbogbo wa lama je breakfast!"
