The 30 Day Challenge; Day 5 - Things you want to say to an ex

I have just 2 questions, and I hope I get answers...

•  Why did you lie to me?
• I thought we were friends, what changed that???

The things I want to say, and know I can never have the guts to say to your face:

I really hope you have "grown up" cuz you were such a baby back then! Could it have been because we were the same age, and women tend to need a more mature person? Or was it just the way it was meant to be? There were little things you should have done and things you should never have done or said. I wanted to call it quits by the end of the first month, but I was convinced otherwise by "she" and heaven knows I tried! I know I am not perfect, and that you have a few things to say to me about "who I was" back then. (I wish you would).

Your lie is something I pray to get over. (I hate lies). I am really glad it was already over when I discovered you had lied, because, truth be told, I do not know what I would have done...

I am no longer angry, bitter - maybe a little - but I learned a lot of things from you  - good and bad - in the brief 5 months we shared...and I am wiser, because I firmly believe know that no knowledge gained is ever wasted.

I am also glad we didn't put up a fight and we parted "amicably". It just wasn't meant to be, I see that now...

Have a nice life!

The 30 Day Challenge: Day 4 - Bullet your whole day

Ha, now everyone will get to know how "busy" I was today! OK, here goes:

• Woke up and lazed in bed for 30 minutes doing the usual - Me and God daily RUNZ.
• Had my bath and got dressed for work
• Hitched a ride with my sister to a certain point and continued on my own to the office
• Was very nice to everyone I saw this morning. * I am nice that way* :)
• Made a to-do list for the day and cancelled a meeting instantly, as I did not feel like going "out of the office" for the meeting (May God forgive me!)
• Got so busy (Reading all the posts on my reader)
• Got pissed off by a "friend" on bbm and wondered why we were friends in the first place. No be by force ooo!
• Worked very hard and juggled work between my 3 "Departments"
• Went for lunch with my friends and discussed marital issues and how some "men" change after marriage (Even though there was only one married person and the rest of us are single- we "singlets" had the most to say! Lol)
• Got back to my office and had a meeting with 2 potential vendors. ( OK, one was personal and the other was official).
• Decided to put up this post.
• Battled with someone over a "not-so-clear communication" that was - in the words of my boss - "Tacky".

 Of course, work will still continue, and I do not want to get into trouble.    

source

So I will let it end here.

Naturally!

The 30 Day Challenge:Day 3- A Book I Love

This is very hard for me because I love to read and have read quite a few books. I have mulled over this for a while now, and I must confess, I still can not choose "one" book. I will however leave you with my favorite authors and a promise to make the next challenge more interesting!

• Dee Henderson  (Actually, you should try the entire O'Malley Series!!!
• Francine Rivers  
• Frank Perretti
• Jeffery Archer
• John Grisham - No space for all of them ooo!
• Robert Withlow -  
• Ted Dekker  - Virtually all of his books!

 You really shoud try these books! :)

The 30 Day Challenge: Day 2 - What I feel Strongly About

I think this just says it all. It has always been my dream to study Development Studies - Many reasons for that actually, just take a look around you (If you are in Nigeria, or in any part of Underdeveloped Africa).
I haven't achieved this yet, but i know that I will, one day.
This is something i feel strongly about- Humanitarianism- What better way to express it than through the day set aside by the world to do so? Although the set day is 19th of August, I will go ahead and do this now.
Maybe YOU will join me in saving the world a jigsaw peice at a time.

Cheers:

I think my humanitarian side has just "clicked" finally. Be warned: This post has a lot of links and twists...please try to read it all - I know its a lot, but I guess we all need the information :-) -

The 30 Day Challenge: Day 1 - Five ways to win my heart

Ok, I guess I really have to do this!

I am not really a difficult person to please, so the 5 ways will be relatively easy. Here goes:

1. Be straight forward and honest - I tend to take people by their words, so I appreciate people who say what they mean and mean what they say.
2. DON'T BE SLOW - I really do not know (yet) if this is a blessing or a curse, but i really hate it when people are slow (In speech, thinking, whatever). I know I am impatient, and working very hard on this by God's grace (please forgive me if i have been short with you) , but i like it when people move on the same frequency with me.
3. Be fair and impartial - I love when people are fair to others, just because! 
4. Don't lie to me - This is one thing I find hard to forget. I prefer to be told the truth always. Its hard, painful and all, but it prepares you instantly. Just tell me the truth and let me find a way to deal with it.
5. Be kind  - Enough said!

What in the World???

I didn't even see him dance and this is seriously pathetic!

Alternative / Neo Soul / Soft Rock Singer - Kafayat Quadri

Isn't it funny how you think you know someone so well, but you later find out that you just knew a "little bit" about the person? I  am saying this because of my friend, Kafayat. 

We were in secondary school together (no, I am not claiming friendship ooo) although she was a year my senior. Back then we categorized ourselves by our classes not our age, so even if you were like 19 and you were just a year above me in class and I was 14, yes, you were just "a year my senior". lol. 

Well, she played at a music concert we had in School, it was Redemption Song by Bob Marley and I remember wondering  how she learnt how to play one, and if I could ask her to teach me. I even went up to her one day, but didn't have the nerve to ask her. Gosh, I used to be so timid back then.

Anyway, after I left Saggy, I hardly kept in touch with anyone. (Maybe because I was shy, I really do not know, or do not want to know). It took another 8 or maybe 9 years before I stumbled upon Kafayat again. We happened to be neighbors (Everybody who lives on your street and the next street is a neighbor) in the same Estate. We got talking and she used to come visit me and my sisters. We exchanged information about ourselves, what we had done since leaving Saggy, where we worked, and all that normal stuff. In between she said "I also Sing" but being a doubting Thomas, I probably thought, "yeah, me too" and got rid of the information.

Until I read an article about her.

Then it hit me that she wasn't joking after all.

Here's a brief on her:

Kafayat Quadri was introduced to the Guitar at 6 years by her dad, a Land surveyor, who also taught her how to play a mouth organ. (He played tunes from famous musicians as well as used the talking drum).

She officially started playing the guitar at age 13, and her very fist performance was at FGGC Sagamu in 1996 at the school's Annual Musical Concert.

See what some people have to say about Kafayat:

“The Ultimate Face -Off’ . . . under the auspices of Wole Oguntokun’s Theatre@Terra . . . . It seemed only proper that the opening song was Kafayat Quadri’s ‘Asiko Tito’, a song on forgiveness.”

Ireyimika Oyegbami - 234NEXT

“Quadri is already becoming with her deviant attire and music that gives throwbacks to Tracy Chapman. For those who follow her performances at Theatre at Terra you would attest to her moving voice fitted over diverse themes and the notes from her guitar.”

Nigerian Entertainment Today - MUSON Jazz Festival 2009

“Kafayat Quadri is gaining the attention of Nigerian social media lovers. Listening to her grooves, I found myself nodding my head in approval. It is always great to see young people who are willing to stretch their wings, check out/learn and use alternative forms of music expressions rather than the regular over used ones. Her voice is simply great. Two thumbs up!”

Pamela Stitch - The Pamela Stitch Webazine

“Kafayat Quadri rawks! Her voice goes through a room, straight to you. ”

Temitayo Olofinula - Independent Writer

 Please visit her page for more - http://www.reverbnation.com/kafayatquadri

Way to go kafayat, I hope you also get to see this blog post!