On the Journey of Becoming

Today is Thursday, not my regular day for blogging, but here I am, hands gliding over my keypad, rushing to get out the words before the inspiration disappears. 

This is April 2026.

I must state that clearly because I am reflecting on the journey from January 2026 till now. It feels like I am light-years away from the person I was in January, and yet, there is still a lifetime between who I am today and the person I hope to become by December 2026.  

I am still the same person - me.

Ema.

Daughter of Esther. Sister to amazing siblings. Wife to a king. Mom to angels. Queen of my world.

That is a killer description, if you ask me.

This AI version of me looks awesome

Well…  I am still me, just a little different. 

Okay, maybe that's not entirely true.

I am a lot different today. But the difference didn't happen overnight.

I didn't suddenly transform from an ugly duckling (which we don't do here, by the way) into a swan. Oh, no. Change is never random. It happens in bits here and pieces there. One subtle comment.

One valid lesson.

One growth opportunity.

One sales pitch.

Sometimes, it takes rejection.

A broken heart.

A betrayal.

A poor choice.

Other times, it came through the hardest disappointments- God’s silence. Doors that stayed shut despite prayers… you get the drift. 

I grew up hearing that "the only constant thing in life is change", yet change is one thing that people fear the most. A baby must change - from the cute, helpless thing making adorable gurgling noises, to the crawling child that wears out the mother, to the delightful toddler. Let's stop here because once they start talking a mile a minute, they become something else entirely 😀

That cute baby doesn't become a five-year-old overnight. In the same way, growth happens gradually. Every day, something changes. We may not see it, but it's happening- gums, a tooth, a complete set of teeth, and one day, they are cracking bones with you. 

Honestly, I don't know why we fear change so much when it is inevitable. Do people fear change because they can't control it? But if you can't control it, why not influence it to favor you?

Here's what I mean.

Take a child growing up in the slums. They dream of going to a good school. The desire is there, but life and finances say otherwise. It is much easier to remain in the same state of mind and simply exist. But change is possible for this child.

With a growth mindset, you can influence your outcomes.

Never become something simply because your environment says it is who you are. Learn who you are. Explore. Be open to learning new things. Identify people who can help you.

 It may not take you to the same room as the others immediately, but it will elevate you.

This is how to influence your situation.  

Another example: You bake sweet treats.

You are operating at an average level. You are not the best in your industry (fact), but you want to be recognized as an outstanding baker (potential).

So you level up.

 You go to a culinary school. You learn the ropes. You invest your time learning skills online. You carve a niche for yourself. Before long, the big names come calling. Now you are no longer an average baker; you are a recognized chef. A celebrity baker. A voice of authority. You influenced your future through your present actions. 

And then one day, you will look back and realize you have evolved so much that you almost do not recognize this new version of yourself. When you look in the mirror, you will see that it's still you- just a better version. 

On the journey of becoming, make promises to yourself. Let those promises become your guide. They will keep you steady and remind you of who you are, where you come from, and who you are becoming. 

Because becoming is not about becoming someone else - it is about becoming the best version of who God created you to be.

And that journey? It is always worth it.

You've got this!